Choices have consequences. In fact, there is no choice we can make that comes without consequences, intentional or unintentional. Sometimes the consequences are pleasant; other times they are not. Wisdom teaches us to carefully consider the choices we make and the consequences that might follow. If we don't like the possible outcomes, maybe we should reconsider the choice.
Most likely, we will all experience times in our lives where we make choices that lead to consequences we did not foresee and do not enjoy. We can take responsibility for these choices or we can choose to be victims. Taking responsibility means we "suck it up," "face the music," or "pay the piper" learning how to move forward as best we can. Choosing to be a victim happens when we refuse to take responsibility for the choices that led to the consequences. Instead, we blame other people or situations for the circumstances. Again, our choice.When we take responsibility, we let go of the hurt and pain allowing us to grow in courage, strength, wisdom, and knowledge. We overcome our circumstances and become more aware of possible consequences which help us make better choices. We desire to share our learning to help others avoid the pitfalls we have experienced. We become more loving and understanding.
In contrast, when we become a victim, we hurt so deeply that we want others to hurt also. Not only do we want them to feel our pain, we want them to experience their own pain as well. We fear, blame, condemn, and seek out injustice. We want revenge! We become hardened by our experiences and stop caring, trying and learning. We become hopeless that things will ever change unless we force them. We refuse to budge from our current understanding. Though at times we might be victimized, we can refuse to become a victim.
From reading the news, it appears that many people today want to make their own choices without any consequences. They don't want to be responsible for their own actions, and yet they want everyone else to be held accountable for everything that happens.
Everyone has the right and responsibility to choose for themselves. No one else can choose for them. No one else can choose for me. I choose for myself and will accept the consequences.
